Perimenopause Sucks, Part I

I have one question.  “How in the hell did my mother go through menopause without being under a physician’s care”?  She had to be hella strong in order to do that.  Come to think of it, she must have really loved us too.   Why do I say that?   Because we all survived it.

Okay, I’ve mentioned previously I’m perimenopausal.  In my opinion, symptoms of menopause are comparable to PMS, only three times worse.  It feels like I’m PMSing every two weeks now.  You heard me; bloating, mood swings, cramping, tiredness, etc., every two weeks.  I am aware of increased mood swings, but I can’t seem to control them.  Come to think of it, I don’t want to.  Sometimes they’re so bad I  can’t stand my damn self.  Hot flashes?  All I can say is thank God for nappy hair ’cause if I had a perm, I’d be one tore up sista.

I remember laughing when I read that memory and concentration may be affected.  To myself I’m saying, “It can’t be that serious.”  Well, it was funny until I got to the point where I couldn’t remember whether or not I took my medicine.  I take my medicine daily at the same time and couldn’t remember taking it 15 minutes later.  I guess you know it’s no longer a laughing matter, right?

What I whine about the most is the fact that all I want is to be ”alone”.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my hubby and kids dearly, but I need my space.  There should be some type of mini menopause weekend getaways, a menopause resort, or even a menopause cruise destination.  Believe me, you’ll get your “alone” time as no family members will want to go there with you.  Hmmm………sounds like a good business venture to me. 

If this is what I have to look forward to over the next couple of years, then I’m screwed.  One thing I always hated was not being in control of things, and this is definitely something I can’t control or make go away.  I can treat it symptomatically, but that’s about it.  I don’t know when a mood swing is going to hit, I can’t predict a hot flash, and I can kiss a 28-day cycle goodbye.  Being perimenopausal sucks!!

Stay tuned for more general ramblings about perimenopause in the near future.

Anybody else dealing with perimenopause/menopause?

Alternatives to Straightening with Heat, Part I

After chopping off my hair two years ago due to heat-induced damage (blow drying and pressing), there has been no heat styling for me.   This means no pressing, blowdrying, or flat ironing.  My hair is currently 4 inches, healthy, and growing.  I’m ready to try something different, but if the application of heat is necessary, forget it.   I haven’t nurtured my hair back from the dead just to switch to another form of torture by using heat.  Don’t get me wrong, I do realize it’s possible to successfully press, flat iron, or blow dry with little to no heat damage.  I also know damage can occur combing, brushing, or even towel drying your hair, but in my opinion, it doesn’t compare to the direct damage heat can cause.  Hell, I’m also 40+, perimenopausal, and trying to keep every hair follicle I have on my head.  For this reason, I felt I needed to find alternative ways to straighten without heat.  The alternatives I’ve listed  are more time-consuming, but the end result is healthier hair, which I believe is more important. 

WET SET OR ROLLER SET (WITHOUT HEAT)

What you need:

  1. Rollers – Magnetic or snap-on rollers.  Size and amount of rollers needed depends on hair length and whether you want tight (small rollers) or loose (large rollers) curls.
  2. End Papers – Ensures nice crisp set, prevents frizz, and smooths ends.
  3. Setting lotion – Provides body, sheen, hold, and heat protection (if needed).  Helps hair remember set.  (ex: Lottabody Texturizing Setting Lotion, Paul Mitchell Hair Scultping Lotion )
  4. Clips -Metal duckbill clips or all purpose metal clips.
  5. Spritz with water – To redampen hair if needed.

Shampoo and condition hair.  Apply setting lotion to damp hair and comb through.  Part  hair in sections, apply end paper to ends of hair, roll you hair onto roller.   Spritz hair with water to redampen as needed.  Which way you roll your hair depends on how you’re planning on wearing it (front to back, parted in middle, side part, etc.)  Air dry.  Do not remove rollers and clips until completely dry.

WRAP SET (WITHOUT HEAT)

What you need:

  1. Setting lotion – Provides body, sheen, hold, and heat protection.  Helps hair remember set.  (ex: LottaBody Cream Wrap, Motions At Home Foaming Lotion,  Isoplus Wrap Lotion).
  2. Clips – Metal duckbill clips or all purpose metal clips.
  3. Large rollers (2) - Optional for those with long hair.
  4. Paper wrap strips – Strips stretch around head to keep wrapped hair in place.

Shampoo and condition hair.  Apply setting lotion to damp hair, then comb through your hair.  I wear a side part and my hair is short, so I wrap in a circular motion beginning at the side with more hair.  For those with long hair, you can use two jumbo rollers to secure hair in the very top portion of your head, then wrap the rest of the hair around.  Another option is to start combing, while wrapping hair, beginning at the center part of your head (crown) in a circular motion.  Use clips to secure ends.  Apply wrap paper strips around head to secure wrapped hair in place.  Air dry.  Don’t remove paper wrap strips and clips until completely dry.

I tried to break it down in layman’s terms as best I could.  If you have any questions, just holla! 

If you know of any other alternatives to straightening hair without heat, please let me know.

Plus Size Lingerie for the Big Sexy

Nothing makes a woman feels more pampered and uber sexy than shopping for lingerie.  Beautiful plus size lingerie is available in multiple colors, fabrics (cottin, satin, lace, silk, etc.), and styles from sizes 1x-6x.   It seems there are more choices available online opposed to shopping locally, but the variety of plus size lingerie (bras, teddies, shapewear, PJs,  babydolls, accessories, etc.) out there are endless.     

Let me just say that as a full-figured woman, I hate the “mini boomerang” put in bras known as the ”underwire“.  Somehow it always seems to work itself out over time, usually one at a time, poking and sticking you along the way.  My preference are bras that are ”seamless” with “no underwire.”  I’d love to have a beautiful front closure bra, but I don’t think I have the patience for the 8 to 10 hook closures that accompanies one.  

Here are a couple of my favorite plus size lingerie sites.

Hips and Curves.com.  Hips and Curves has everything a big girl desires.  There is a vast  selection of bras, chemises, corsets, teddies, pantyhose, etc.  They also offer extended sizes.  Woot!  Woot!  Word to the newly engaged or bride-to-becheck out the bridal lingerie selection.  They also have Tyra Banks’ Full Figured Top Model Lingerie and (gasp!) a leather collection.  My favorite?  The leather and lace bustier.

Frederick’s of Hollywood.  Frederick’s of Hollywood is a name synonymous with sexy lingerie.  Their plus size lingerie selection (bras, babydolls, pajamas, shapewear, etc.), is good, but small, but their prices are very reasonable. 

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A.  Stretch Lace Cami and Boy Short Set, $22.00 to $36.00

B.  Waist Cincher Brief Panty, $32.00

Bare Necessities.com.  An ideal full-figured or plus size store would offer numerous brands, sizes, and styles.  Bare Necessities does just that and more.  Make sure to visit the Bridal, Maternity, and Men selections.  Enjoyed reading the “Top Ten Bras” feature which discusses T-shirt bras, sports bras, minimizer bras, etc.  

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A.  Bali No Slip Strap Firm Control Camisole, $32.00

B.  Glamorise Soft Cup Minimizer Bra, $36.89

I love Lane Bryant for their awesome plus size lingerie.  Eat your heart out Victoria Secret.  The big sexy diva can get panties comparable to yours in the styles (hipster, thong, brief, hotshort, etc.), colors, and fabrics (satin, cotton, lace, etc.) like everyone else.  Did you know that Lane Bryant now has an online bridal and maternitycollection?  I’m impressed.  Thank you Lane Bryant for giving us beautiful bras, panties, and shapewear.  They may be more expensive, but the quality more than makes up for the price.

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A.  Ruffle Animal Print Thong, $14.00

B.  Safari Swirl Hotshort, $15.00

C.  Set of 2 Bravado! Designs Pregnancy Bikini, $20.00

How about some smell goods to go along with that sexy lingerie?  A few of my favorites are:

Bath and Body Works Rice Flower and Shea, Sweet Pea, and Brown Sugar and Fig shower gel and body lotion, priced from $9.50 to $10.50.

Carol’s Daughter Almond Cookie and Mango Melange body butter, shower gel, and body lotions, priced from $18.00 to $20.00.

Healing Garden’s Organics line; Wild Honey, Lavender and Fig, Olive and Aloe, priced from $5.95 to $9.39.

Where do you shop for your plus size lingerie?  I’d love to know.

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